Sometimes we have to take a step back in order to take a step forward, make lemonade with the lemons.
The serenity prayer comes to mind – written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971). The best-known form is: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.
In life we often have interruptions to our plans.
Be it on a personal level – During my very limiting high risk pregnancy I became septic, severely ill while abroad and was hospitalised for eight days and in December 2018, interrupted my honeymoon and the happily ever after prospects. However that was the furthest thing on my mind. At that moment I switched to the mode – How can we make it through this, one day at a time.
Be it on a professional level – a business you are setting up and the breaking of a cooperation before the business takes off due to a fundamental lack of trust. The shock is inevitable, but once that subsides let’s look at the positives. The opportunities for two become opportunities for one. If someone feels threatened by what you do at a time you feel unsure, they trust your capabilities more than you do yourself. If they don’t trust you at the start they won’t trust you further down the line, this way we separate before we generate!
Or an antagonising, professional growth averse boss that when presented with a change fails to be supportive and decides to continue to be obstructive until you have no other choice than branching out and changing the course in your professional career. Needless to say that what I found after was simply amazing, supportive manager and colleagues in a place i enjoy working in.
Spiritually in delayed answers to prayers! Often we pray for what we think we want but if we truly had what we thought we wanted, would that be the best for us? Would we still want it once we had it? Sometimes delayed answers to our prayers give us time to mature our plans.
There is a Chinese proverb – When the winds of change blow, some people build walls and others build windmills.” whichever way you look at it, something new must happen, be it to embrace the change or to block it.
Either way there is planning involved. So it is futile attempting to adapt to change without it.
So tips on adapting to change include:
Becoming a problem solver and remembering that it starts with your attitude. Keep a positive can do attitude. Remember that those that succeed is not because they have not failed but because they never gave up.
Seeing them as opportunities and not as obstacles. Use the changing force as a drive and not as a block.Once you do, you would be surprised at the energy change within you.
Planing your way out of it, check others that might have done it before you, research, research, research.
Keeping an open mind as the solution may come to you from an unlikely source, when you least expect it.
Why is this important in health?
If you are anything like me, I used to stress about problems or bury them in the sand, begrudge change. This would leave me anxious, irritable, less focused. Now I welcome the new challenges, new opportunities and trust that everything happens for a reason.
I found that changing mindsets has been very useful, if not the most important thing in my journey towards health. Focusing on the task at hand to be able to stay the course.
Things happen for a reason! God has a plan that includes all our planned and interrupted changes.
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